Cancer Survivor & Wellness Devotee
– as told to The Silver Women
Women who inspired you as a young girl?
Eleanor Roosevelt. She was so strong, cared about humanity and truly giving to others. My Baba Mara. She had so many hardships in life and handled them better than anyone I know. She was beautiful, very tough, sweet and extremely intelligent with values and really understood life. She had so many great quotes. I now wish I had written them all down.
Women who inspire you now?
My Mother always… Angela Benton, Nicole Fasolino and Meryl Streep.
Most valuable lesson taught by your Mother or any other women growing up?
My mother is very wise and very kind. She always told me whatever advice I give you please listen. She was and still is always right.
“My Baba (grandmother) had an old saying
“Ko muci, dvi uci”.
Translated it basically means
In silence, you learn.“
Do you think older women are valued or celebrated enough?
I don’t think they are today. I see a level of respect going down for older women from the younger generation.There is a tremendous amount of self–centeredness and ego. I think social media has a lot to do with this. I hope this changes for the sake of the future generations.When I was in my 20’s I looked up to and tried to be like the older women I knew in my life.
Have you made career changes over the years?
I have just recently, from publishing to wellness. I started a website called wellwithin.co My goal is to make people aware of life and themselves. Advice and tips from my own knowledge and experience and from industry experts on how to lead healthier, balanced and more content lives. I am on that path. I also work with my family contracting business in LIC NY, Build Source Corp. I went from couture to a hard hat…hahahahaha
Through the decades!
20’s: I would not have changed a thing. This was my “greatest” decade. My accomplishments were becoming an editor at fashion magazines. At 23 I got a job as the Assistant Bookings Editor at Harpers Bazaar. I booked models and photographers and produced photo shoots. From there I moved around various magazines (Marie Claire, Seventeen, OK!). I worked in publishing for over 20 years. I met my lifelong friends, traveled the world and learned about business.
30’s: I didn’t feel so accomplished in my 30’s. This was my rather tough period in life I would say starting around 35. I was becoming burnt out from work and was looking for a change but too afraid to make one. No other regrets other than not having a child. As they say “it was written”
40’s: Fighting a deadly cancer. Learning that loving myself is the key to true freedom. Letting go and not caring what others think (this is tough… but what isn’t in life?) Mainly courage, growing my spirituality and faith. Still, regrets about motherhood. I have accepted it will never go away and that is ok that it won’t. Lying to yourself is the worst thing. I feel I would have really been a great mother.
50’s: Not there yet… my goal is to make it!
What have been your greatest challenges?
My lung and then brain cancer diagnosis at the age of 43 and 44.
Cancer changed my outlook on life. I do not take it as a bad thing. Yes, I did I have my struggles and pain. There were times I wanted to give up but I fought and still fight it. I learned about true love and who really cares. I learned what really matters.
“Being healthy and present is all you really need.”
I also think everyone has a cross to bear (some more than others).We are all one and everyone has their pain and their issues. My outlook on death has also changed. I am not afraid to die. I feel we go to a beautiful place of peace and harmony. I don’t want to go just yet. I still want to be alive and create that here on earth.
What are you most grateful for?
Life and learning from it. My amazing family and my very good friends.
Thoughts on AGING?
The downside…The elastic of your skin goes to crap.
The upside… LIVING!
Your advice to young women of today?
Love yourself more than anyone. Be your own person. Independence is the most rewarding. Never depend on anyone and you will see all of your dreams come true. Don’t multitask. Do one thing at a time and give it your all. Success is not making money. Success is helping and understanding others. This will give you peace of mind and find the way to your own happiness. Stand up for yourself and do it in a ladylike but firm way
–Loraine Pavich x
Images courtesy of Loraine unless credited otherwise.
FEW OF MY FAVORITE THINGS
Book/Novel: Radical Remission by Kelly A. Turner.
When I was diagnosed with a Pancoast Tumor (rare lung cancer) and was going through my treatment for almost 4 months, this book gave me hope, love, light, truth and understanding.
Song: Pictures of You (The Cure) Buddy (De La Soul). Purple Rain and I would Die 4 U (Prince)
Film: Goodfellas It is super well directed by Martin Scorsese. I love movies that are true stories. This movie also teaches a life lesson that living a life of crime and drugs will catch up to you. Valley Girl is a close second. The best soundtrack and really funny. If you play close attention, this movie teaches you about love.
Scent: Light Blue by Dolce and Gabbana. It has a clean freshness to it. I love it for the day. For the evening my go to classic favorite is L’eau D’issey by Issey Miyake
Flower: White Roses
City: NYC. I was born and raised here. My heart and soul is here. It is my home. It is a place that you can do so many things to change the world. I love Kozino, Croatia where my parents were born. It is a tiny beautiful seaside village that is magical and special.
Skincare: Kiehl’s Lip Balm & Neutrogena Sesame Seed Body Oil (gives your skin a natural glow and the smell is amazing)
Lipstick /makeup product you can’t live without: Trish McEvoy Even Skin Portable Foundation and her lipstick color Mulberry (this color is great for every skin tone). It is natural and lights up your face.
Food/Meal/Cuisine: Classic French
Artist: Andy Warhol, Keith Haring, Basquiat, Francesco Clemente, and Harif Guzman.
Sante D’Orazio has also been doing some really cool stuff these days.
Style Icon: Ali McGraw (70’s) Bianca Jagger (70’s) Kate Moss (always) Jane Birkin, and Cher when she was on the Sonny and Cher show. I am a hippie bohemian girl at ♥